Don't be fat, look younger, look less tired, wear clothes that make you acceptable to others....exercise and diet compulsively to achieve other people's aspirations for you....
I bet if we're all honest, at some time or other, we've been affected by that.... I know I have.
We all want to look good but is it a sustainable way to keep fit, when your goals are aimed around what you feel you should be doing, how you feel you should be looking, rather than what you love to do?
The thing is that the relentless pursuit of an ideal body isn't likely to offer most of us a sustainable health and fitness programme. It can set us up for failure and leave us confused about what our goals really are and why we are not getting there.
Chose your exercise like your friends...you may have lots of friends but there will always be a handful of special people that make the difference to you. In the same way, do lots of things to keep yourself fit but find those things that you love to do and your exercise becomes sustainable for life. You may not have found that thing yet...you may still be driving past the gym with a grimace and a guilty sidewards glance at your bankcard, your bike may be gathering dust in the shed, the cross-trainer in the garage making you feel bad every time you go to the tumble dryer..
If that's the case, then that's not your thing - you tried it, which is commendable. So move on...try something new. Change something. Fall in love with running, swimming, cycling, walking, hiking, climb mountains, join up to something, play a team sport, join a class, get advice, lift weights, join a group.... I don't know what it is for you...but keep trying because your passion for exercise when you find it will be the most amazing reward.
So if you're worrying about the numbers on your scales this week....going backwards and forwards.....stop and have a think about whether you can set yourself a goal that challenges you instead. Something that's about you and about being strong and fit for your future. I hope that you find your motivation and that you fall in love with that form of exercise, not because it will give you the 'ideal' body but simply because you wake up wanting to do it